Positive reinforcement is a popular theme among child psychologists.  It is especially important during potty training, but it’s so easy for parents to become frustrated during this often difficult time.  It is crucial to remember just how bad negativity is for children who are in the potty training process.

Why Does Negativity Cause Potty Training Set backs
Toddlers want to please their parents, so it may seem that negativity would push them in the other direction.  But in fact, the opposite is usually true.  The more negative you are about mistakes, the more likely your child will be to make them.

Children who are ready for potty training are developing a sense of independence.  So while they want to make their parents happy, they also have a desire for autonomy.  That means that they often resist things that parents want them to do, including potty training.  Then when the parent becomes upset, the child loses confidence in herself.  This can quickly turn into a vicious cycle.

Although it is important not to scold a child for making mistakes during potty training, you don’t have to communicate your negativity in order for it to have adverse effects.  Children can sense your frustration, and when they pick up on it, it can be just as damaging as harsh words.  So it is important to do your best to keep a positive attitude about the potty training experience.

How Can I Remain Positive?

Maintaining a positive outlook when your child’s potty training is not going well may be easier said than done.  Here are some tips that can help:

* Remember that you’re not the only parent who has had a rough time with potty training.  With all of the books, websites, and advice columns dedicated to such issues, you’re far from it!  It may seem insurmountable, but other parents have lived through it and you will too.

* Think about all of the progress your child has made in other areas.  Toddlers have learned to do a lot of things by the time they start potty training.  Have faith that your child will master this as well.

* Get your child to help clean up when she has an accident.  This will help eliminate feelings of resentment.  It will also help your child by making her take responsibility when she has accidents, possibly giving her a gentle push toward avoiding them.